Getting Through the Five Emotional Stages of Lockdown
By Steven Visentin
For months, the media has scared the public so well, it's going to be a while until some of us truly venture out freely again, even though "stay-at-home" restrictions have eased in many places. According to Anne Marie Collins, the president of the Australian Association of Psychologists, Inc., there are five stages to "lockdown" (Collins, AAPi 2020). If you're familiar with these psychological states, you'll be able to relate. Read on and discover where you are and what we've all been through as a nation.
Feelings are real things. They're not "just feelings." Ignore them at your peril! The emotions we've all endured in the past few months are justified. The story is the story of our times. We've been through a lot lately. At the end of this emotional rollercoaster is hope. Most of us are probably just starting to get there, but it's the fifth and final stage of "lockdown."
You may not have gone through these stages in any particular order. You might be stuck in one phase, or even revisit previous stages ... because you're human.
Stage 1: Disbelief
It's been unbelievable what's been happening since 2020 began. You may have found some of the things our leaders said during this time, and continue to say, incredible. Your world has been turned upside down. Maybe you lost your job and never dreamed that could happen.
Stage 2: Anger
Perhaps you're angry about it. Have you noticed people seem irritable? They've been running red lights, yelling at each other in the street to "wear a mask" or saying things like "this is a pandemic, not a party." Maybe you're annoyed that your income was – or still is – down ... or lost entirely? Perhaps you're upset that you still can't seem to find a job?
Stage 3: Sadness
You may have found yourself sobbing. You may still be upset at the loss of structure in your life. Everything changed so suddenly.
A COVID Story
This story illustrates the emotions of the first three stages. A 5-year-old named Noah was raised by his grandmother. But his family had been practicing social distancing, and it had been some time since he'd seen her. Noah's father said: "Grandma's coming, but don't get too close; you could make her sick."
The boy didn't believe it. By the time grandma rang the doorbell, he forgot the conversation. He rushed to the door and hugged his grandmother's knees. His daddy shouted, "Didn't I tell you not to get too close to grandma?"
His father was in phase 2: anger. The boy was in disbelief and sank quickly in to stage 3: sadness. He started to cry and grandma started to cry. Finally, the boy said, "I'm going to go upstairs, take a hot bath, and put on my pajamas." He never did that in the afternoon.
You might recognize that you're still in one of these states, or that you recently were: disbelief, anger or sadness. Or, you could be in Phase 4: Acceptance, especially if you're using phrases like "the new normal." Perhaps you like this "new normal" and have given up on the rat race. You're enjoying your life now; spending more time with your family and looking forward to more of this opportunity in your life.
Be patient with yourself and this process we're all going through. Get lots of rest. Enjoy brisk exercise. Drink lots of water. Avoid drugs. Pray, meditate and certainly talk about these feelings with someone. And of course, get adjusted by your chiropractor.
Stage 5: Optimism – The Final Stage
It's time to start dreaming again! Don't settle for "normal." Look forward to a better life, a positive change for humanity. Anticipate peace, forgiveness, kindness toward one another. Perhaps you want more connectedness, family, friends, happiness, gratitude and laughter. All of this is within your reach and awaits you at the end of this crazy detour we've been through.
Steven Visentin,DC, a 1982 graduate of National College of Chiropractic, is a solo practitioner and clinic director at Care Chiropractic in Denver.